We all love gifts.
But, can the gift of parenthood be compared to others?
Surely not. It is a special and invaluable gift unlike many others. For the Muslim parent, it is a gateway to paradise.
And just as with every special gift, parenthood comes with much responsibility and accountability.
”O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.” (Quran, At-Tahrim, 66:6)
In today’s world, Muslim parents and technology are inevitably linked as technology is an integral part of our daily lives.
Parents play an important role in having these technologies in their homes and in supporting its usage by their children. However, they cannot simply dismiss such technologies, but rather look closely at their bane and boon as discussed in an earlier post, then take appropriate action.
Such technologies, whether they are gaming devices, smart phones or tablets are capable of various functions – from the usual calling, texting, chatting and playing games; to browsing the internet and social networking; and also taking photos, videos and watching TV. These functions could have both positive and negative impact on Muslim minds and homes.
The attitude of the believers should be that of empowering themselves with the appropriate knowledge they need to support their children’s use of technology safely and responsibly.
Muslim parents and technology: 5 Pro Tips to Utilize
Here are 5 pro tips to help you start acting purposefully with your children’s use of technology from today:
Tip 1. Connect your children with Allah
It is your duty to infuse your children with consciousness of Allah . Along with that is having correct understanding of the true purpose of their existence. Just as with the example of Luqman the wise in the Quran, when he directed his son to Tawheed, saying ‘”O my son…!” (Quran, Luqman 31:13-39)
And similarly in a hadith found among the 40 hadiths of an-Nawawi;
On the authority of Abu Abbas Abdullah bin Abbas who said:
One day I was behind the Prophet [riding on the same mount] and he said, “O young man, I shall teach you some words [of advice]: Be mindful of Allah and Allah will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him in front of you. If you ask, then ask Allah [alone]; and if you seek help, then seek help from Allah [alone]. And know that if the nation were to gather together to benefit you with anything, they would not benefit you except with what Allah had already prescribed for you. And if they were to gather together to harm you with anything, they would not harm you except with what Allah had already prescribed against you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried.”
Infuse your children with consciousness of Allah .
Tip 2. Be a good role model
Act responsibly with technology in the same way or even better than you expect your children to. Practice what you preach and be a great example. They are watching you even when you do not realize it. And most importantly, the recording angels are taking records for which you will be questioned about.
Abdullah ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah said,
“Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and his children and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. Surely, every one of you is a shepherd and responsible for his flock.”
Tip 3. Give naseehah
Tamim Ad-Dari narrated: Allah’s Messenger said three times:
”The religion is Naseehah (sincere advice).” The people asked, ”To whom?” The Prophet replied: ”To Allah and to His Book and to His Messenger and to the leaders of the Muslims and the common folk (all the Muslims).”
Support your child(ren) by having constant heart-to-heart conversations about how to be safe, smart and responsible online; and also to engage in fair, positive and responsible use of all technologies. Your sincere reminders will serve as guide and advise for when you are not physically with them.
Tip 4. Educate your children
Teach them about staying legal, avoiding scam and cyber criminals and being financially smart. Guide them to be aware of engaging in prohibited acts – displeasing to Allah and harmful to fellow humans.
Abu Musa Al-Ash’ari reported:
I asked the Messenger of Allah : “Who is the most excellent among the Muslims?” He said, “One from whose tongue and hands the other Muslims are secure.”
Tip 5. Learn IT language and skills from your children
Step into their IT world and gain a new perspective. It would help to bridge some of the inter-generational gap, create rapport and serve as a great conversation starter. You can also team up with your children to carry out projects, enroll in courses together or view programs as a family.
Here’s your chance:
You have the opportunity to learn more about technology as a Muslim parent. Then you can use the knowledge you acquire to strive and reap great rewards for yourself and your family insha’Allah!
Start with the right attitude.
The attitude of a believer!
In what other ways can Muslim parents turn the use of technology into a positive and rewarding experience for the entire family? Please share below.