What do we learn from the hadeeth, Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“Allah Most High says, ‘He who is hostile to a friend (Wali) of Mine I declare war against. My slave approaches Me with nothing more beloved to Me than what I have made obligatory for him, and My slave keeps drawing nearer to Me with voluntary works until I love him. And when I love him, I am his hearing with which he hears, his sight with which he sees, his hand with which he seizes, and his foot with which he walks. If he asks Me, I will surely give to him, and if he seeks refuge in Me, I will surely protect him.’” 
Allah says “He loves such a person”. When He loves the person, He becomes the hearing of the person, the sight of the person, his hand with which he seizes, and his foot with which he walks. It is not meaning that Allah will become that particular individual. This is mistake in understanding. There are some people who possess this mistake of the Hadeeth of Allah which is quoted by Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ). Allah does not become that individual but He becomes the hearing of the person. In the hadeeth, it does not say that He will become ear but He will become his hearing. That is, what individual hears is what Allah wants him/her to hear. He will avoid useless talk if he is in gathering and people are talking trash and nonsense, he will leave or will try to make the conversion to something that is positive, if he think he is capable of doing it, if not he/she will get up and go. They do not remain sitting there, hearing what Allah do not want them to hear. The talking will be displeasing to Allah .So the person will have Allah‘s hearing by either changing the conversation or leaving that area.
Similarly, beside that the individual sees that which Allah wants him to see. The individual avoid looking at the things which are displeasing to Allah whether it is in the form of magazine, videos, sight (go to places, or whatever countries). The person will take him out of the situation that will displease Allah. If he likes to swim he knows that there will be beach wears, and people will be half-naked, so he will not say that he will not see and serve Allah but instead he will not go there. So a better person will live a life in such a way that he only sees what Allah want him to see. Of course, as human beings, there will be something’s which will pass us that Allah does not want us to see. However, the point is that you do not dwell upon it, you look elsewhere. You change the circumstances and find other options so you try your best and most of things, you will see that is pleasing to Allah.
Regarding seizes of hand which is described before (in hadeeth), the food and daily needs which you do take in your hands and what you earn is halal. What you take is halal and that is what Allah wants from you. This is how you operate in your life. You do not touch what is haram, whether secretively in case of income, or being literally, in the case of shaking the hands of woman. This is something which is prohibited in Islam. Prophet Mohammed (ﷺ) said
“it would be better an iron spike be driven in your head than touching the hand of woman whom is not permissible for him.”
This is something Prophet Mohammed (ﷺ) imposed. When a person has come close to Allah through these vital acts, they build on the basis of compulsory acts and Allah loves that individual. Such an individual will avoid contact physical or metaphorical something which is prohibited and that is deceiving to Allah. We have to judge ourselves. If we take away the regular voluntary deeds, we are getting closer to Allah, but in fact if we look at our situation we find that we are receiving deceit things that are haram. We are looking for things that are haram and not looking out for things that are halal. It means for sure we are not most beloved to Allah and we are not getting close to Allah, we are going further away from Allah. It is either you are going close to Allah or going away from Allah. So we have to take stock ourselves and try to improve our practices.
Allah describe that he will become the one we are going to, it means where we are going to and it means that we are going to places that are pleasing to Allah .Such a person, Allah says “if he asks of me, I will answer.” To such kind of person, Allah will answer his prayers. “And if seeks my protections, I will protect him”. That is the confirmation of the very first statement. That whoever becomes the enemy to a friend of Allah, one who is close to Allah, who is love by Allah, such an individual (enemy) has put himself in state of war against Allah. Allah will protect that person. Allah will answer his prayers.
 [Sahih Al-Bukhari: 6502]
 [Tabarani; Hadeeth 5045, Saheeh (Albani). For more details on the ruling for shaking hands with a non mahram woman go to: http://islamqa.info/en/175180]< Back to Questions