Many a times, we get stuck in the perils of this world. Every day we are reminded of our flaws, our mistakes, our good and our bad. No one has the perfect life. There are times we lose ourselves. We do everything we can to forget the hardship. We try to sleep it out. Or even stay awake unable to sleep.
This depression and anxiety creeps inside the mind. It is fatal for our mental health. Sometimes it goes too far. We feel like we can’t do it. Hope is lost. Love is blinded. Fear is increased. In this state of hardship our sight becomes clouded. All the happiness that we have seen, that we have experienced is all forgotten. When all hope is gone, the next thought is what’s the use of living.
The World Suicide Prevention Day is celebrated on 10th September annually. Islam prohibits suicide and harming oneself. This prohibition is from the mercy of Allah . As a Muslim, we need to understand certain things about life that will help us prevent various thoughts that lead to misfortune.
“And We shall make a trial of you with evil and with good. And to Us you will be returned” (Al-Anbiya’, 21:35)
We must be strong and patient. We need to accept that it is okay. We need to remember that after every hardship, there is ease. Most of all, we need to seek Allah’s help. He is the only one who can help us out. The will of Allah is certain. If we have had hard times in this life, it is due to the will of Allah . We must be extremely sincere in our duas and ask Allah from the bottom of our heart to make things easy for us.
“Who, when disaster strikes them, say, “Indeed we belong to Allāh, and indeed to Him we will return.” (Al-Baqarah, 2:156)
Islam strictly prohibits suicide. It is a major sin. One must remember that Allah , the All-Wise has made it a sin for a reason. We don’t get to choose when we take our life. It is only Allah who decides that. We must seek great deal of protection and ask Allah for mercy.
“And do not kill yourselves (or one another). Indeed, Allah is to you ever Merciful. And whoever does that in aggression and injustice – then We will drive him into a Fire. And that, for Allah is (always) easy.” (An-Nisa 4:29-30)
Narrated Abu Huraira-: The Prophet said, “He who commits suicide by throttling shall keep on throttling himself in the Hell Fire (forever) and he who commits suicide by stabbing himself shall keep on stabbing himself in the Hell-Fire.” (Sahih al-Bukharee , 1365)
Narrated Thabit bin Ad-Dahhak: The Prophet said, “Whoever intentionally swears falsely by a religion other than Islam, then he is what he has said, (e.g., if he says, ‘If such thing is not true then I am a Jew,’ he is really a Jew). And whoever commits suicide with piece of iron will be punished with the same piece of iron in the Hell Fire.”
Narrated Jundab the Prophet said, “A man was inflicted with wounds and he committed suicide, and so Allah said: My slave has caused death on himself hurriedly, so I forbid Paradise for him.” (Sahih al-Bukharee , 1363, 1364)
One of the leading issues that direct one’s thoughts to suicide is mental illness. It is our responsibility to take care of our mental health. Mental health is what shapes us. It is what we think. There are so many perspectives through which one makes certain decisions. Stable mental health helps us in making the right choice and overall leading to a better quality of life.
To keep our mental health in the best of states, we must practice self-help. We must take care of ourself. Self-care is understanding that you of all people, need your love and support. In these tough times, take some time for ourself. Do the things that make you happy, that make you grateful to Allah . Remember The blessing that Allah has showered upon you. Believe in the good deeds that you will get due to your facing of hardship patiently.
Abu Sa’id and Abu Huraira reported that they heard Allah’s Messenger as saying: Never a believer is stricken with discomfort, hardship or illness, grief or even with mental worry that his sins are not expiated for him. (Sahih Muslim, 2573)
Another way to help us stay in the right path is to engage in social events that remind us about Islam and guide us to the straight path. There are many events that are being conducted that give us reminders and help to engage in good deeds. We also get to meet other people who are righteous. Being close to good people and having good friends leads to major impact in the happiness of our life.
And of course! Finding our way through Islam. There is certainly nothing better than finding our path from Islam. Allah is always ready to guide us. All we need to do is ask. We need to get close to him. Increase in good deeds such as fasting. Praying on time, charity, dua and Dhikr get us closer to him.
Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, “If Allah loves a person, He calls Gabriel saying, ‘Allah loves so and-so; O Gabriel! Love him.’ Gabriel would love him and make an announcement amongst the inhabitants of the Heaven. ‘Allah loves so-and-so, therefore you should love him also,’ and so all the inhabitants of the Heaven would love him, and then he is granted the pleasure of the people on the earth.” (Sahih al-Bukharee , 3209)
“Allāh does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned. “Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people.” (Al-Baqara, 2:286)