If the parent mostly makes positive actions, the child will perceive the parent as loving. The ideal positive-to-negative ratio is 80 to 20. Meaning, for every four positive actions a parent does towards his child, he can afford to make one negative one. For example, three hugs and a kiss, earns you one light scolding. If you make more negative actions and less positive ones, your child starts to look at you as an unloving parent.
It’s possible that you have missed to perform well in Ramadan. It’s possible that you tried but never could you hit the bars like others did. It’s even possible that you have fallen deep into the woebegone pits and seems as though there’s no way out for you. We don’t have to sweep these realities under the carpet; rather we must deal with them.
Verbally encourage your kids whenever they listen/recite the Qur’an. Smile, let them know how good you think they are doing, and how proud you are of them. Try not to get them used to tangible prizes. If you do get them prizes, make it rare and spontaneous. You wouldn’t want your children to make a connection between reading the Qur’an and instant and tangible rewards. Rather, make it a habit to explain to them the virtues of the Qur’an such as healing and good deeds.
Open your heart to its heavenly calmness, to its spiritual peacefulness and its multitude of blessings. Welcome the pain of hunger and the reward of achievement. Rediscover yourself and fill this emptiness that’s draining you with loving and worshipping Allah with every cell in your body.
Every Muslim does not need to become an Islamic scholar, but we should regularly seek Islamic knowledge. The best deeds are those done regularly, even if they are small. The Prophet was asked, “What deeds are loved most by Allah?” He said, “The most regular constant deeds even though they may be few.”