If the parent mostly makes positive actions, the child will perceive the parent as loving. The ideal positive-to-negative ratio is 80 to 20. Meaning, for every four positive actions a parent does towards his child, he can afford to make one negative one. For example, three hugs and a kiss, earns you one light scolding. If you make more negative actions and less positive ones, your child starts to look at you as an unloving parent.