If the parent mostly makes positive actions, the child will perceive the parent as loving. The ideal positive-to-negative ratio is 80 to 20. Meaning, for every four positive actions a parent does towards his child, he can afford to make one negative one. For example, three hugs and a kiss, earns you one light scolding. If you make more negative actions and less positive ones, your child starts to look at you as an unloving parent.
Verbally encourage your kids whenever they listen/recite the Qur’an. Smile, let them know how good you think they are doing, and how proud you are of them. Try not to get them used to tangible prizes. If you do get them prizes, make it rare and spontaneous. You wouldn’t want your children to make a connection between reading the Qur’an and instant and tangible rewards. Rather, make it a habit to explain to them the virtues of the Qur’an such as healing and good deeds.
Many of you will recall how our parents and grandparents would make a list of items they needed to buy before visiting the store or the market. This was part of their planning and would make sure they don’t lose track of their expenses. However, we seem to have given up on this approach. I strongly recommend each one of you to begin this again. Keep a note-book and make a list of all items you need to buy before you step out to the market. You will be surprised how your expenses will fall in line, helping you keep a track of your expenses in a better manner.