In part I of this hadeeth, we learned about the lexical meaning of Islam, and roughly touched upon on how we can submit to Allah with our hearts, limbs and tongues, so as to follow that which He has ordained, and stay away from that which He has forbidden. In part II, let’s continue learning about the remaining part of this incredible hadith.
If the parent mostly makes positive actions, the child will perceive the parent as loving. The ideal positive-to-negative ratio is 80 to 20. Meaning, for every four positive actions a parent does towards his child, he can afford to make one negative one. For example, three hugs and a kiss, earns you one light scolding. If you make more negative actions and less positive ones, your child starts to look at you as an unloving parent.
A parenting tip: I think making kids read real life stories (prophets, sahaba, imaams, scholars, and other inspirations) is better than showing them fictitious story books which can addict them to more imaginative stories, to animated movies, to eventually real movies. I think connecting them to fiction is our first mistake. Let me know what you think.
It’s possible that you have missed to perform well in Ramadan. It’s possible that you tried but never could you hit the bars like others did. It’s even possible that you have fallen deep into the woebegone pits and seems as though there’s no way out for you. We don’t have to sweep these realities under the carpet; rather we must deal with them.