One of the ways to help you become more tolerant when dealing with your husband’s behaviour is by telling yourself that you are being kind to your husband not for his sake but only for the pleasure of Allah SWT.
Children who have disabilities should not be humiliated, rejected, or discriminated against, based upon their disability. Instead, their family and community should assist them with their special needs and with what will help them become functionaries in society.
When your child observes your actions during your episodes of frustration and anger, she learns from you. If you tend to become physically violent with her when you’re angry, your child will learn this as acceptable behavior.